What to do when you feel like your mother hates you?

Think about why you feel like your mother hates you. It may help to get out a pen and paper and write about your feelings for ten or fifteen minutes. Ask yourself some questions about the situation. Did a specific instance trigger your thought of “my mom hates me?” Or is this more of a general feeling?

What if my mom says she hates me during an argument?

If your mom says she hates you during an argument, she probably did not mean it and will most likely feel awful for saying it. But, don’t get wrapped up in wondering, “Does my mom hate me?” You should talk to her about it after you are both calmed down.

Why does my mom hate me so much?

Another reason you may feel like your mom hates you is that she says or does things that are negative or critical toward you. It’s possible that her behavior is unacceptable, but it’s also possible that she’s trying to help you learn to be your best.

What should you do when your mother says bad things about you?

As therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle, “A mother’s role is to provide unconditional love, safety, and support,” so it’ll feel really bad when she uses harsh words or brings up a sore subject. The best thing you can do, in these moments, is to take good care of yourself.

Many times, when you feel like your mom hates you, this is genuinely not the case—there may be other factors and conflicts at play that are causing tension in your relationship.

How do I deal with a critical mother on the phone?

If she becomes intensely emotional or critical on the phone then put an end to the interaction. There is no need to feel guilty about this. The hope is that by terminating the conversations she will understand that her harsh and critical behavior is unacceptable.

Why does my mom always try to help me?

While some moms try to help out of genuine care, it’s a habit that can hold you back from becoming independent. Other toxic moms might act like this intentionally to keep you dependent on her. It might be because she wants to be in control or because she’s having a tough time letting go of the role of caretaker.

Why does my mom have so many toxic habits?

But sometimes, toxic habits are simply due to a mom’s immaturity more than anything else. If your mom is immature, it may feel like you’ve always been the “mom” in the situation. This is what’s known as “ parentification ,” Dr. Racine R. Henry, PhD, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle.